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US Air Force Bases Plant Hotbed for Domestic Violence



Amid growing tensions in the world between the US and foreign countries like North Korea, we in the USA have been blinded to think that all is well in love and war back at home on U.S. Soil.  Instead of countries who wish to engage in psychological competitions of who has the greater nuclear weapons, Americans across this country are facing a not so new conflict here at home where our own military has turned its back on the most heinous of victims, men, women and children who fall victim to domestic violence as committed by their sponsor service-member.





While Domestic Violence is recognized by the Military as a complicated and growing issue, there are only two worlds of class systems when the abuser is a member of the military: the Military Justice System and the Family Advocacy System (FAP/FAO).  Neither system is in communication with civilian courts when it comes to holding an abuser accountable once a victim is ready to leave the abusive family relationship.  Never mistake between the two systems however.  FAP is NOT a court system or punishment system, but instead a program signed into law by Congress intended to identify, treat, resolve, and if necessary intervene where abuse or maltreatment instances exist.

It is entirely plausible to see a Family Advocacy Case opened and result in a case of substantiation or founded status, possibly even entered as abuse or maltreatment into a Central Registry Database of FAP abusers.  It is also entirely plausible at the exact same time to see an abuser actually get away with the offenses in a criminal aspect, with zero judicial punishment, where the burden of evidence in the military justice system is non-compliant with laws such as the Violence Against Women Act.
If a civilian spouse is identified as the abuser, unless the service member is requesting services, then the civilian is likely to be referred to civilian authorities to handle the issues at hand, or at least they are supposed to be since they have no jurisdiction over the spouses as a civilian.  However, if the alleged abuser is the service member, then the service member may be offered to participate in services, such as a 52 week Batterer’s Prevention Program, Parenting Classes, Co-Parenting Classes, Anger Management or High Conflict Classes or Programs, and Alcoholic Support Groups, to name a few. The biggest flaw in this system though is that no one can force a service member to comply with services offered nor to participate in them, absent any criminal convictions where program participation may be forced as a part of sentencing.  However, abuse, stalking, harassment, and other various acts of domestic violence are rarely ever prosecuted under the United States Military Code of Justice unless there is very clear and convincing evidence exhibiting physical bruises, actions causing grave injury resulting in hospitalization, or maybe even the rare chance where an authority may witness the abuse personally.


If any party lives away from the base station point and any incident occurs in civilian territory, there are often memoranda of understanding (MoUs) between local law enforcement and base command.  If an incident occurs, base command, base security, or even Family Advocacy is contacted to assist in mitigating the matter.  Local enforcement may or may not contact the base in question to report an incident.  While Department of Defense often argues that procedures of memoranda are being created or updated as needs arise, there is not one consistent memoranda of understanding across the nation that upholds a crime victim’s rights off-base where the abuser or perpetrator is in fact the service member.

This blogger has seen firsthand the corruption that lays within one American Air Force Base that appears to be rampant and running wild with domestic violence, also loaded with red tape and a lot of victim blaming and shaming.  The military and its red tape prevent a victim spouse or their children from accessing information which would otherwise assist them in seeking help in the civilian world OFF-BASE in a local family or civil court.

This blogger has witnessed Military Protection Orders being violated by service members.  This blogger has seen Security Forces on Base degrade, demean, humiliate and outright disrespect and leave at home any sense of moral duty to another human being.

In my first series of upcoming segments, I will expose lawyers I have seen firsthand violate victims, Publish Pictures of abusers stalking their victims (personally witnessed many times), and bring to the forefront the stories of victims from across this country and abroad at US Duty Stations Overseas.  The stories will raise the hairs on your arms, make you shed a few tears for a complete stranger, and possibly even outrage you just enough to demand action from those in a position to do something about the ongoing corruption- the red tape that exists between the Civilian world and the not-so-elite world of domestic violence in the military and the veil that silences its victims.

The military is known to serve and protect.  WE THE PEOPLE should be demanding that at all times and demand accountability where failures prevail.  Bring honor to the honorable not shame and stain to the fallen.

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  1. You are an amazing writer and advocate. I'm lucky enough to have you as a friend for over a decade. Your dedication, love, and support for my kids and I as we go through this horror is so undeserved, but so appreciated. Thank you. Love you.

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  2. Thank you for bringing awareness to this issue. I had no idea how bad things were until I went through all this myself. Our service members should not be allowed to get away with these heinous acts and maltreatment of their very own families! People who are supposed to be protecting and serving for our freedom turn right around and abandon us at the drop of the hat, continue to harass, subject us to all sorts of abuse, and not even get a slap on the wrist 😔 There needs to be accountability or else no one will change their bad behavior.

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