Taking Custody

There has been much national concern over Domestic Spouse Abuse Victims in the military realm of the USA where national attention was brought to an already concerning problem when Devin Kelley decided to shoot up a church in hopes he had directly harmed his ex wife. And her family.     Devin Kelley was one of few men actually convicted of spousal abuse at Holloman Air Base in New Mexico and he served time in a Naval prison.     When it was discovered that red tape structure was what allowed Mr. Kelley to continue to be a problem, it drew attention to the fact that most DV Cases are actually not even prosecuted on military bases nationwide.     But why we have been asked. Digging deeper into the world of Military Spousal Abuse, Military Protective Orders,    Family Advocacy Office Programs and personnel and branch policies only creating more tape, I was able to find an even more troubling concern among the world of SVCs, also known as Specia...

Today I was faced with a unique circumstance that I think we all as parents will likely face at one time or another.  You get a call or message from a doctor saying to stay away and appointments are cancelled for various family members because of a disease detected in their facility. More specifically, the Measles. The irony about this is when asked, I was informed said person was vaccinated.  I couldn’t help but laugh because so much we are told as kids and while growing up is about “herd immunity” and how great it is for the rest of people and why if you get vaccinated, well then you should never get the illness.  Or at least, that is what we are often told. Listen, I am not anti-vaxx persay.  I’m anti-stupidity.  Don’t lie to parents saying a vaccine is “SAFE” when the courts have already determined it to be deadly.  Or how about saying something is safe followed immediately by demanding a parent sign a hold harmless liability waiver before givi...

Everyone has silent battles within the home.  Everyone that knows me knows I am not shy about my past and if you ask I will answer.  But what people haven’t asked about lately is why I have been so busy nonstop nor why have I been so "apparently distracted". I’m not just a caregiver of family and a mother.  I am also the glue for my family.  That’s not just a responsibility but some really don’t know what it’s like to be in constant triage mindset.  Always fixing something because something always comes up.  In fact, it happens at least a dozen times a day. What’s my current struggle? people have asked.  So I will answer. I am currently fighting for my daughter to be genetically tested for MODY because science doesn’t always meet with logic and common sense and frankly I am at wits end with medical professionals and other people who seem to not want to take me seriously. My Significant Other in September was on the verge of death (in...

This just in: A type 1 diabetic just very recently had their CGM Dexcom ripped off their body and transmitter broken open by TSA and insulin pump yanked on at checkpoint. Agent was advised by a 1.5 hours early arrived traveler that they had insulin equipment physiologically attached to their body and would need a pat down instead of being damaged by the scanners.  Being irritated the TSA pulled them over to secondary and told them they had to break open the devices because “they were carrying a controlled explosive device”.  Traveler gave medical paperwork for traveler.  Agent refused to listen.  Traveler asked for a supervisor. By this time Other agents were called over to assist.  At which time this cruel “pat down” yanked and ripped these devices from their abdomen, broke their transmitter and looks to now need a full replacement of a $6500 pump because of the incident. TSA HEADQUARTERS commented that the best they could do was send the TSA Agents off t...

In recent years, there has been an uprising in financial spousal abuse in the Air Force with little to no real guidelines specified pertaining to family support obligations of a member. Where defined as “adequate support” prior to July 2018, new regulations have been sent down from the top to specify what is considered a calculated pro-rata obligation to support a spouse, the family, or just the children. For those reading who may be unfamiliar with military regulations pertaining to financial “family obligation support”, this is a huge step for the Air Force to now raise the standards and obligations of their service members. This is such a huge concern for those previously impacted as I actually see women and men spouses of service members rushing to have these “adequate amounts” enforced per the new AFI Regulations. You see them here as outlined by the Assistant Secretary of the Air Force in AFI36-2906 Chapter 4.  You may wish to print these out on 8.5x11 paper for your ...